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Morality or Cowardice -Where is the line?


Hey , let me start out with a simple question.

Are you a nice person?

Whatever your answer maybe you may want to rethink it.


What is morality?

Morality derived from the Latin word “moralis” which means something like character, manner or proper behavior.

It is the differentiation of decisions, intentions and deeds (aka actions )between those that are distinguished between proper and improper ones.

Morality can mean a set of standards, rules and responsibilities,basically a way of life.

From a region, culture and religion it can be derived as a standard, a way of living or “the right path”.

It is often tied to “goodness” and “rightness”. That one thing which tells “right” from “wrong”.

In the old stories the authors glorified it to nowadays basically too high levels.

Who wouldn´t want to be a “good guy” in his own story?

One example is the statement of Christ about the “Golden rule” found in the New Testament, which says:

“One should treat others as one would like others to treat oneself.”

In itself morality isn’t bad.

It does however get a bad rep cause of certain people.

Nietzsche commented on this as well.

Something like most moralist´s are cowards.

What does this mean? That every person that has morals is a coward? NO.

It is because “cowards” disguise their cowardice with the “mask” of morality, a LIE.

We all have these traits yet they are more developed in some people more than others.

It depends on the core of a person, their true intentions.

Before into the actions of others we must also not forget to look into our own…

Facing the truth

Cowardice can be seen as the lack of courage, saying no when you mean yes and vice versa, not doing the things you have to do, running away from responsibility, commitment…and the truth.

No one wants to be described as a coward. It reduces your social status among st peers and elders, as well among friends, family, business partners, your better half…

Not only does one shrink in others eyes to the point of nothingness in extreme cases.

It leaves a person vulnerable, weak-willed, resentful, bitter, spiteful or worse.

Unless broken this fear based cycle is a never ending source of suffering.

It´s fear running wild in one´s life , spreading like a wildfire and drowning like a flood.

If not addressed and treated properly it progresses like cancer to a point where recovery seems impossible.

Such a person tends to flee from a challenge, to cheat, lie and sabotage themselves as well as others.

Another issue is the stories they tell themselves, the person they pretend to be.

The mask they put on every day which is just a copping mechanism to relieve the constant building pressure because no one want´s to feel like this.

No one.

Not everyone in such state can help themselves as well,sometimes a “hand out” is OK, but not if they keep coming back asking for more each time while their condition worsens. If you do so you´re “inviting” that same fear into your house, into your soul.

There are more factors to consider of course but in the end the one that is treated needs to do something from their side as well.

Note that this is not written to point fingers at anyone .

It is written to address a problem.

Maybe you know someone who displays such behavior or you may suspect a similar behavior in yourself.

The remedy to all that ARE willing to turn the page is the truth and everything that comes with it.

Is it painful? Yes, but so are operations and recoveries of patients in critical stages.

There´s no way around it, no quick fixes, no “skipping the steps”.

Just know that accepting your truth, your reality doesn´t mean settling down with it.

It IS NOT set in stone therefore there is always something to look forward to.

It will hurt but regret and resentment, the “fruits” of fear will hurt even more.

Apply integrity

So how to escape from this mindset?

Well I haven´t found a way out but a way through.

As stated in Matthew 7:13 that we should enter the narrow gate.

For wide and easy is the way that leads to destruction.

This is true in life.

Countless examples still show it today.

Consistency is key here, the more often you do something the better you become at it, be it good or bad.

What kind of life you have is also determined by the things you do or don’t do on a consistent basis.

Integrity aka saying what you mean and meaning what you say or Biblical speaking

“Simply let your ‘Yes’ be ‘Yes,’ and your ‘No,’ ‘No.’ Anything more comes from the evil one.

Matthew 5:37″

The definition is simple but applying it can be hard for some more than others.

For example, saying yes to that one more drink when you want to quit,

saying no to your spouse or loved one when you have an addiction or health problem and they wish to help,

saying yes to that party when your child is sick at home and you honestly just wanna stay and take care it.

These are only some examples of the lack of integrity and courage.

Often we know what we should do on some level but we talk ourselves out of it.

So the key to change is truth.

You gotta be honest with yourself and the surrounding ones.

You gotta be honest about the things you need to give up and the people you need to let go.

Integrity ,in short does not come from a place of fear or weakness,

but of strength.

It’s when your no means no, and your yes means yes.

When you know what you value and you´re willing and able to defend it at all cost.

It doesn´t mean your harmless or weak either but we´ll discuss that in the next post.

Go all the way

Again, you have to see life as a marathon, a campaign.

A daily, weekly, monthly, yearly ongoing march.

As in nature when something stop growing or developing it starts dying.

Be it a community, marriage or any kind of vow you make, know that it is in consistency that lies the answer.

The moment you start to get sloppy or lazy on your path that’s when you start planting the seeds of mediocrity.

Last thoughts

Thats it from me. Hoped you liked this post.

If you have any thoughts or opinions on this article please leave your comments below.


If somebody has saw his- or herself here and is thinking this is a “waste of time” or “what BS”.

I understand, for I was is a similar position as well, just sick of motivational

and positive nonsense but even sicker from staying in the same miserable mind, job and life.

When you come to a point of “enough is enough” you´ll understand this better.

Till next time.

12 thoughts on “Morality or Cowardice -Where is the line?”

  1. Matthew says:

    What an interesting subject you have written here and it has given me a lot to think about

    The fact that you say there is a thin line between morality and cowardice will make me second guess my thoughts and actions nowas I move forward

    Do you really think that having a positive mindset will change the way your life will go?

    1. Dario Kalizan says:

      Hy Matthew,
      Having a positive mindset is one part of the cake, and so is negative visualising aka thinking what could go wrong.

      But those two are more “blueprint techniques” don´t get stuck on em.

      If you know what you want and why, weigh the situation the good and bad.
      alas you make a choice,and your choice and the consequences thereof are yours alone. To me it seems like a muscle that needs practise

  2. Salim says:

    Hello Dario,

    What you described about cowardice and morality, is, in my opinion, the case of many nowadays in our society. The social ranking and the thought of others of our status and of what we do became of such importance that affected our judgment on things in our life that at certain points can drag us down into the abyss.

    I believe fear plays a big role in us leading us to what I would call the bad form of cowardice because in some cases being a coward might be saving your life, or others life and possibly the best option to take. 

    One thing I always would keep in mind is the following “never do anything that you are not sure or agree of”, always follow through on your decisions, even if that takes you out of your comfort zone and even if that disagrees with what the other majority thinks of it. I know it can be hard to do, yet drawing and opening your own pathway is not easy.



    1. Dario Kalizan says:

      Well, fear is useful, but cowardice is another story, at least to me.
      Social ranking or status may be important depending on what you value.

      However, life isn’t all in your job or status. Sure we all need to pay our bills and do our part in society Every action has a price, and we only get so much time.

      I’m glad you got something out of this article and I totally agree with you on opening your own path is not easy, in fact, it can be frightening, but we all must be aware of who we are and who we are supposed to be.

      Tell me what is your greatest challenge you face at the moment?

  3. Gomer says:

    Hi there fellow moralist! I really like this post of yours. Oftentimes, people are forced to conform to their peers in social media for the fear that if they don’t, they will be perceived as weak and coward. That’s the sad scenario in social media nowadays as people fear of bullying. But then, thanks for this encouraging post of yours. Good men will be encouraged to stand up for the right. This is worth sharing especially on Facebook.

    1. Dario Kalizan says:

      Hi, Glad you liked it. Gomer.
      Conformity can be horrible at times, we are social creatures after all.
      Hence the need for relationships, communication, and bonding.
      No one wants to be left out.
      There are times when one should stand out, otherwise, if you don’t speak your truth something within you slowly starts to die. I’ve learned that the hard way…

  4. Love the article, it makes people think. I think that as a Christian I cannot let society dictate what bravery is that’s for sure.
    I have at times in my own life felt like I was a coward. The main cause was lack of self-confidence or experience but at times it was just too worried about what others thought.
    I was always the nice person. Didn’t like conflict or confrontation. I am still nice but I also have learned to speak up as well as be responsible. Sometimes it is a long process to learn how to quit being afraid by facing your fears, learning the skills and getting good advice. Best place I know is the Bible.
    Good article

    1. Dario Kalizan says:

      We have some things in common Michael.
      Being kind and “Nice Guy” are two different terms.

      Kind is natural but “Nice Guy” is manufactured and can leave one scarred both mentally and physically.

      I agree the Bible holds great wisdom and as said in Romans 12.2

      “And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.”

      I’m glad you found your voice and that you like the article.
      Have a good day brother.

  5. water life says:

    Dear Dario, 

    The issues you have raised in your article concern important theories of life that have been practiced by philosophers of many ages. 

     Socrates preferred to honor his dedication to truth and morality, though it costed his life. He was interested in the true virtue which he believes to be the same for everyone. Platonic ethics are steadily oriented towards the pursuit of bliss. The moral virtue and bliss have also served Aristotle.

      The moral, the truth and the honestly are values ​​that should be taught to people from their childhood. 

      In my opinion, we must set some boundaries between honesty and rudeness. Because honesty and truth must be called politely and some ignore it. I hope you agree with that. 

      Regards, Thodoris.

    1. Dario Kalizan says:

      Hy Todoris,
      I agree with you that Moral, truth and honesty should be taught from childhood.

      As well as the line between honesty and rudeness but as far as i´ve seen the best we can do is give a caring and guiding hand to those around us, just as parents may teach their children .But the children have to make a choice of their own.

      We cannot control everything but we can do the task well that we have been given.

      How you do anithyng is how you do everything

  6. Carol5162 says:

    Morality seems to make more sense since I got into adulthood. The ‘do unto others what you would like done unto you’ made more sense in the recent past.

    And I must admit that facing the truth sometimes is an uphill task. No one wants to be seen as a coward hence the need to continue pleasing the crowd at the expense of my morality.

    Great piece to ponder. Learning to let my YES be YES and NO be NO. Time to find my consistency and stick to it.

    This is an eye opening post. Thanks.

    1. Dario Kalizan says:

      You´re welcome Carol

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