Hey , let me start out with a simple question.
Are you a nice person?
Whatever your answer maybe you may want to rethink it.
What is morality?
Morality derived from the Latin word “moralis” which means something like character, manner or proper behavior.
It is the differentiation of decisions, intentions and deeds (aka actions )between those that are distinguished between proper and improper ones.
Morality can mean a set of standards, rules and responsibilities,basically a way of life.
From a region, culture and religion it can be derived as a standard, a way of living or “the right path”.
It is often tied to “goodness” and “rightness”. That one thing which tells “right” from “wrong”.
In the old stories the authors glorified it to nowadays basically too high levels.
Who wouldn´t want to be a “good guy” in his own story?
One example is the statement of Christ about the “Golden rule” found in the New Testament, which says:
“One should treat others as one would like others to treat oneself.”
In itself morality isn’t bad.
It does however get a bad rep cause of certain people.
Nietzsche commented on this as well.
Something like most moralist´s are cowards.
What does this mean? That every person that has morals is a coward? NO.
It is because “cowards” disguise their cowardice with the “mask” of morality, a LIE.
We all have these traits yet they are more developed in some people more than others.
It depends on the core of a person, their true intentions.
Before into the actions of others we must also not forget to look into our own…
Facing the truth
Cowardice can be seen as the lack of courage, saying no when you mean yes and vice versa, not doing the things you have to do, running away from responsibility, commitment…and the truth.
No one wants to be described as a coward. It reduces your social status among st peers and elders, as well among friends, family, business partners, your better half…
Not only does one shrink in others eyes to the point of nothingness in extreme cases.
It leaves a person vulnerable, weak-willed, resentful, bitter, spiteful or worse.
Unless broken this fear based cycle is a never ending source of suffering.
It´s fear running wild in one´s life , spreading like a wildfire and drowning like a flood.
If not addressed and treated properly it progresses like cancer to a point where recovery seems impossible.
Such a person tends to flee from a challenge, to cheat, lie and sabotage themselves as well as others.
Another issue is the stories they tell themselves, the person they pretend to be.
The mask they put on every day which is just a copping mechanism to relieve the constant building pressure because no one want´s to feel like this.
Not everyone in such state can help themselves as well,sometimes a “hand out” is OK, but not if they keep coming back asking for more each time while their condition worsens. If you do so you´re “inviting” that same fear into your house, into your soul.
There are more factors to consider of course but in the end the one that is treated needs to do something from their side as well.
Note that this is not written to point fingers at anyone .
It is written to address a problem.
Maybe you know someone who displays such behavior or you may suspect a similar behavior in yourself.
The remedy to all that ARE willing to turn the page is the truth and everything that comes with it.
Is it painful? Yes, but so are operations and recoveries of patients in critical stages.
There´s no way around it, no quick fixes, no “skipping the steps”.
Just know that accepting your truth, your reality doesn´t mean settling down with it.
It IS NOT set in stone therefore there is always something to look forward to.
It will hurt but regret and resentment, the “fruits” of fear will hurt even more.
So how to escape from this mindset?
Well I haven´t found a way out but a way through.
As stated in Matthew 7:13 that we should enter the narrow gate.
For wide and easy is the way that leads to destruction.
This is true in life.
Countless examples still show it today.
Consistency is key here, the more often you do something the better you become at it, be it good or bad.
What kind of life you have is also determined by the things you do or don’t do on a consistent basis.
Integrity aka saying what you mean and meaning what you say or Biblical speaking
“Simply let your ‘Yes’ be ‘Yes,’ and your ‘No,’ ‘No.’ Anything more comes from the evil one.
The definition is simple but applying it can be hard for some more than others.
For example, saying yes to that one more drink when you want to quit,
saying no to your spouse or loved one when you have an addiction or health problem and they wish to help,
saying yes to that party when your child is sick at home and you honestly just wanna stay and take care it.
These are only some examples of the lack of integrity and courage.
Often we know what we should do on some level but we talk ourselves out of it.
So the key to change is truth.
You gotta be honest with yourself and the surrounding ones.
You gotta be honest about the things you need to give up and the people you need to let go.
Integrity ,in short does not come from a place of fear or weakness,
but of strength.
It’s when your no means no, and your yes means yes.
When you know what you value and you´re willing and able to defend it at all cost.
It doesn´t mean your harmless or weak either but we´ll discuss that in the next post.
Go all the way
Again, you have to see life as a marathon, a campaign.
A daily, weekly, monthly, yearly ongoing march.
As in nature when something stop growing or developing it starts dying.
Be it a community, marriage or any kind of vow you make, know that it is in consistency that lies the answer.
The moment you start to get sloppy or lazy on your path that’s when you start planting the seeds of mediocrity.
Thats it from me. Hoped you liked this post.
If you have any thoughts or opinions on this article please leave your comments below.
If somebody has saw his- or herself here and is thinking this is a “waste of time” or “what BS”.
I understand, for I was is a similar position as well, just sick of motivational
and positive nonsense but even sicker from staying in the same miserable mind, job and life.
When you come to a point of “enough is enough” you´ll understand this better.
Till next time.