Life can bring you down.
Chase you off where you don´t want to go.
Put you in bondage to people and event´s that may or may not have happened.
…or may never happen.
Regardless off what you think or believe there is more for you.
Beware of the depths
Here I´m reffering to our inner depths.
You, me, we all have them.
The struggles, experiences, heart rob´s and heartbreaks are of of many factor of the equation in which we are the result.
The past has left us with a number of habits, belief´s and skill´s that may or may not be to our benefit.
We may not even be aware of them.
If confronted with them we may often dismiss them because of our beliefs.
If you believe you are not good enough you won´t be.
If you believe you´re useless you will be.
The Bible says, As a man thinketh in his heart so is he.
Is it because of what people or events have done to you?
Or what you have been telling yourself that has been done unto you?
No matter who or what confronts you with the reality of the situation.
You may lash out on them,
Degrade, belittle or render them useless.
Be it your family, friends or someone you look up to.
And the fact that we have this little mechanism called ego integrated within our system
doesn´t make it easier.
I´m not demonizing it.
What I am saying if it goes out of control It WILL cause you only more problems.
This goes for beliefs and basically all of our internal “systems”.
If there is an imbalance in your body it will show in your health.
The same goes for your mental health.
These kinds of behaviors may lay dormant for years with us not even be aware of it.
These kinds of moments and event will eventually repeat themselves
Some things are unavoidable.
The good thing?
No human behavior is set in stone.
If you don´t believe me, that´s ok, it will change with time.
Just ask yourself are the thoughts you think right now yours or did you pick them up along the way?
You probably heard of the late Jim Rohn and one of his famous quotes,
“You are in average the 5 people you surround yourself on a daily basis”?
There is a scientific fact to this called Mirror neurons
A Mirror neuron is a neuron that activates both when a one acts and when the one observes the same action performed by another.
So the neuron reflects or “mirror´s” the behavior of the other, as though the observer were acting itself .
They have been observed in animals as well as humans.
Meaning that we reflect our surroundings or precisely said other people.
If you are long enough around them you will basically adopt some same behavioral patterns.
Just look at your daily life and see it for yourself
Lets say If one of your family members was a smoker, drinker, abuser or whatever the case may be there´s a chance that you may become one as well.
But let me say it again It IS NOT set in stone.
Even if you recognize such behaviors in yourself there are solutions to it.
Now if you have recognized such behaviors in yourself,good job, but its not over yet.
It is one thing to recognize such behaviors, another one is overcoming them.
Have you ever tried to get better at your job, diet or in your relationships but continuously kept failing at it?
Do you suffer from depression, panic attacks, bad habits or limiting beliefs that “set your skies gray”?
Are you taking more and more prescription pills to get through the day?
There is a term for this called the “Terror barrier”.
You can also find more information on it at the Proctor Gallagher institute.
The thing is since our brains are designed to “keep us safe” and if you try to move beyond that point,
From that which is familiar, even when that is your own inner prison where you spent most of your time at,
The mind will put up walls to try to keep you from getting to the unfamiliar, “from getting hurt”.
Now that most of our fear´s and habit´s we are TAUGHT.
The thought taught you´re not good enough, that you´ll never be someone or achieve anithing,
or the fear of taking risks, of standing up for yourself, of “not to rattle the boat”…
I didn´t believe it myself a year ago but I was proven wrong.
And while some behaviors can come from the body as well since it is connected to the mind and can be affected by some medication.
And I´m not trying to say here that all medication is bad, they have their good and bad parts as well.
If they are prescribed by someone who knows what he is doing.
Just note that they are here to merely ASSIST you in getting better not solve all your problems.
It is not a substitute for therapy, or better said the right therapy for you, but it can help to a point.
Let´s move on…
Into the process
Note that change doesn’t come from quick fix
If you think that a quick fix will give you a long-lasting result
that’s like buying the mustard seed and expecting you have the processed and done sauce in a glass tube the same second in your hands.
As Rome wasn´t built in a day it didn´t fall in one day either.
Falling apart is a process and so is progress.
And it is proven again and again to be true and possible.
Is there a one for all miracle drug for every problem?
Nope unless you count excuses.
A good life is made from a lot of small decisions that compound over time.
Decisions on a yearly, monthly,daily even hourly basis.
No new action, belief, habit or mindset comes naturally until it is repeated so often it becomes a part of you.
Just as any ill-state of body and mind is grown over time the same goes for other beliefs as well.
Saying NO, discipline to get things done, the courage, the confidence lies outside of your current mindset.
It seemed surreal to me as well, even ridiculous, but there is a point where everyone comes where enough is enough.
There was not one but many small moments that helped me make the change.
Many experiences that slowly linked to one another and regardless good or bad these experiences are the ones that make you.
In the end it is you that has to make the steps and as you pass the first barrier there may come other´s .
They may become tougher but so will you if you keep going.
As for the end looking the lives I saw even my own,
from where I was to where I am now, I know and importantly believe that something better is possible.
Your life is a gift,
And you deserve to give yourself a chance.
Hope you liked my post. It´s been on my mind for a long time only now I decided to speak up.
There is more to it than this but it would be far too long.
Comment bellow your thoughts and do tell me what you think.
Till next time Dario K.