Blindside – Pay attention

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You probably didn´t see this one coming did you?

Just kidding, welcome and without further delay lets dive into the topic.

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The blind side?

In rugby, it refers to the side of the field and the nearest touchline.

It also refers to the side of a persons vision, IE the peripheral vision, where the vision is dangerously limited or non present.

It can be opposite of where you’re looking at, where you are unaware of approaching objects or worse.

The place where you are vulnerable and where you are likely to get sucker punched.

From warfare to sports, business and even relationships

there’s a spot that we sometimes leave unprotected to surprises, and not all surprises are pleasant.

Especially when you’re focused something that you really like

IE that promotion, your spouse saying he/she loves you, you’re business is booming and maybe you think you’re the top dog

in your field of expertise.

“What could possibly go wrong? I’ve got this.”

unexpected guest

If you think like this then we have a problem.

Let’s move on.

Expect the unexpected

In rugby, it is a term for the side of the offensive line that the quarterback is facing away from while he is in the pocket.

The right-handed quarterbacks blindside is protected by the left tackle.

A lot of effort is put to keep the quarterback’s blind side safe due to the high risk of a turnover on a hit from the blind side since the quarterback cannot see the impact coming.

Teams will often put their best offensive man on the blind side to decrease the pressure put on the quarterback.

quarterback blindside

We cannot pay attention to all the details.

We can do only so much from our side and I am not telling that we are helpless or otherwise either.

You might lose your job, disaster may strike your town or family, those closest to you may betray you.

Call it life, Murphy law, bad luck or whatever you want the labels don’t matter.

Your response does.

As the late Dr. Wayne Dyer said When you change the way you look at things the thing you look at change.

Are you aware of your surroundings and the people therein?

Now that due to our inner filter we DO NOT process all the information we are surrounded with.

This is not a motivational hype this is fact.

What is worse than “blindness” is willful blindness.

I hate to admit it myself but I to am guilty of this.

Be it the fact while in the early 90´s in my place wasnt exactly safe.

Aka one time we were running to shelters and one day as I was trying to get out just a few seconds before I could get my hand on the handle I felt a massive quake coming from the floor and walls.

unexpected consequences

Later I was told that the well just a few feet away from our neighbors shelter was blown to pieces.

That was around the age of five maybe even less.

The next years I was basically isolating myself from the people and events around me.

Note that this info is here as an example.

What I am saying here no matter the age or circumstances when such an event happens and

hits you from where you would least expect it sometimes you may want to comfort, to isolate or even to remove yourself from that experience altogether.

Is it betrayal, physical or Physical injury, an unexpected loss of something or someone you hold dear.

The point is that unexpected people or events will come knocking at your door ,

sometimes so bad it can short-circuit ones common sense,

makes you want to just hide in a closet,

make you grow bitter or vengeful ending in major health issues, lousy relationships, bad finances, etc.

And in those moments you may have few responses : fight, flight..or even worse, freeze.

In short the freeze response is kinda like stepping on the gas with full force with your handbrake on.

But that’s not the end.

The shift

Accepting the blindside is one thing but rising despite it is another.

To make the change or “shift” if you will it can take time and effort.

From my experience it is more like a tree you can watch it for days months and years without realizing any progress.

This can be deeply frustrating.

But all things worthwhile take their time as well.

You might want to read or listen to “Cant hurt me” by David Goggins to get a better idea about what I am talking about.

The first great advice I got is that you do something every day that makes you feel uncomfortable.

Sometimes you may even need an extra push in the right direction.

I’ve spend years searching for the one simple thing to take care of every problem in my life but failed to find anything.

You can learn from your mistakes, find a person or two you trust to watch your back, read books, go to sessions, webinars

or whatever your choice is. But you have to make the choice and put in the effort with ego out of the way.

You’re welcome to try yourself and do tell me which one has worked out better for you.

Paying attention

These award and embarasing moments that can last in some cases just a few seconds.

No matter how talented, experienced or good you are you will get a surprise package at your door.

If you can avoid it, wonderful, if not and it smashes you to the ground get up in any way you can as soon as possible or others will make sure you stay there.

Life is about consistency among other things, I’ve learned it the not so pretty way.

There’s a reason why in the army the drill instructors behave the way they do and that is to strengthen the ones who are in training so that when the real deal comes they don’t crumble or freeze at the first challenge.

Again, I’m talking that the people are trained to operate under pressure.

In life this to applies, because we may not control everything but we can choose how we respond in those vital moments.

And that matters.

“Steel” your mind

Sorry for the long break I was pretty beat down.

I do however want to hear your thoughts about this so comment below and share your thoughts Id like to hear them.

And whoever is on vacation I wish them a blast time.

And greets from Croatia,

Dario K.