Rust of yesterday

unexpected consequences

Standing still on an isle away

I never imagined I would see the day

My former friend is that you?

You look suprised to see me

After all you put me through

You came with the dawn and gone with the night

You brought me strife ,my biggest fights

my Victory i celebrated alone with no one in sight.

Through the Mirror now we meet

different but the same

Young and old

The Coward and the bold

a published book and a Story untold.

Am I Rust or iron?

The man or whats left of him?

The machine or the force within?

The visiting time is almost over

I think as i watch the black and White frame

On the rusted pages of the old days

Never to Change never to meet

Thank you and Goodbye again.

“You can rest now for I forgive you” I speak out as i close the book and put the blurred photos away.”

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Finding hope online – just start

atomic habits top 5

Did you fall into a plateau state of mind?

You wish to change but are overwhelmed with information ?

Do you seek out constantly webinars, YouTube videos but never take action?

Or Let’s say you do watch it,get your hopes high just to be crushed by the price tag?

Regardless of the reasons, heartbreak, betrayal, job loss it is NOT hopeless.

If you’re at rock bottom or climbing out of it as well as Struggling with relationships, motivation or getting ahead in life

do you notice the patterns that keep appearing?


Quick tip: How you do anything is how you do everything.


If you’re stuck or failing constantly know that it may be because off:

  • lack of focus
  • lack of clarity
  • habits

conditioning etc. Of course there’s more factors but you are responsible for your actions and perspective.

My top 5 for starters

So here are my top 5 audio books to help you put things in perspective.

Links included.Now lets dive in.


1. Atomic Habits by James Clear

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Here you can find a “road map” on how habits are formed and their effect our daily lives.

As well as how to form new ones and keep them and getting rid of the old unhealthy ones.

Also you can visit their website for additional materials at

jamesclear.com


2. The one thing by Gary Keller

Second-rate work, flooded with emails, obligations,tweets and a hundred different distractions?

Sound like you? Then this may be your choice.

It teaches you how to clear the clutter, get you and keep you on track, get your energy back, how to reduce stress and feeling overwhelmed, complete your tasks and goals and most important doing and finishing what matters the most to you.


3.Cant hurt me by David Goggins

Against all odds. From a depressed, overweight young man with no future to the “hardest man alive”.

His childhood was a nightmare filled with poverty, beatings and predjustice yet he managed to transform his life through self-taught discipline.

He went through hell week more than once, completed his training as a Navy Seal, an Army Ranger, he even went on and set a record on many endurance events.

This book is about his life and shows that most of us use only 40 % of our capabilities, he calls it the 40% rule.

His story also shows a way how anyone CAN push past pain and suffering and achieve more that they believed it was ever possible.


4. No more Mr nice guy by Robert A. Glover

Dr.Robert A. Glover talks in this book about the “Nice Guy Syndrome” and offers also a plan on overcoming it.

Simply put, the “Nice Guy Syndrome” is a dub he put for those who neglect their needs and worth, seek constantly the approval of others, and never express what they truly feel and they also

try too hard to please others first while they grow unhappy and resentful and may lash out at their loved ones.

Some may not even be aware of it.

Here he teaches how to stop seeking constant approval, expressing themselves,getting their needs to be met, embracing their masculinity, have a satisfying sex life and forming meaningful relationships with other men.


5. Rich Dad Poor Dad by Robert T. Kiyosaki

This is Roberts story of growing up with his real father and the father of his best friend, his rich dad — and the ways in which they shaped his thoughts about money and investing.

It explains the difference between working for money and having your money work for you.

It teaches what an asset and what a liability is and that a big salary is not a guarantee you’ll be rich.

PS your house is not among the assets.

It also shows what parents should teach their kids about money and why you cannot rely on the school system for it.

PPS Also if you do like the book and want to learn more About making your Money work for you, you can visit the RichDad Summit Held by Robert Kiyosaki himself and several other entrepeneurs. Its a 2 day online summit which you can enter for $1.

And you can do so by clicking here.


End Notes

There are more but I want to keep it simple. So what do you think of my top 5 for starters?

If you find it useful give it a like or share whichever you prefer.and if you have any thoughts on this please leave it in

the comment section.

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“I wish I could Smile now but I can`’t

I wish I was depressed but I ain’t,

I’m awake but sometimes I don’t feel alive.

Been Sitting on the bench far too long

Hidden the fears inside,

Mind sees dark,Heart sees bright.

A world hidden from their sight.

Always here but Always lost. Before I wanted to go at all cost.

Untill I saw what they tried to sell me as the truth was a cheap lie.

I am still the same as before, but now I want to try. “

This is one step to beat indecision.

Even tho you may look like a fool you do it.

Even tho it sucks do it.

The Things on this site I also aplly.

Am I nervous?

If its a bad first draft no worries itll get better over time.

If it comforts you heres one of my older vidz.

Whatever youre trying to do you may look like a fool in one Point…

Just dont stop at the first base youll get better later.

See you soon

PS If you have something you want to share,be it a Poem,a Story feel free to contact me.

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Online Therapy com Review

Online-Therapy.com

Online-Therapy.com is an online platform designed to make professional counseling easier and more accessible than ever.

By signing in through this link you will get a 20% discount off your subscription.

More people are turning to teletherapy services to get the professional mental health assistance they need and this company strives to provide ongoing support and excellent mental health tools to those in dire need of them.

Going to the therapist takes too much time?

Are you are on vacation, business meeting or working miles away from your place sometimes for a longer period of time?

Had a REALLY bad day and need someone to talk to like right now?

Is therapy too expensive?

It is YOUR health that is at stake and in Online-Therapy.com, people with their mental health concerns can get the care they need right from the comfort of their own home or any place they are.

Other Options

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About the company:

Online-Therapy.com was established with a simple goal —to provide people with all of the tools they need to help them with their mental health concerns.

While many online therapy companies will focus on providing one-on-one counseling services, Online-Therapy.com strives to take a more whole take on the online therapy experience.

Aside from therapy services, the company also has a large toolbox of resources for those who need therapy. This means journals, worksheets, and even online yoga classes all designed to work together to help clients get the attention they need.

Here you can do more than just meet your online therapist,

You can also find the tools needed for keeping your mental health.

Signing Up:

Online-Therapy.com as the entire platform is designed to be user-friendly. You can sign up and get started right away.  Heres how it goes:

  • Choose from many different conditions, depicting which mental health challenges you need counseling for.
  • Provide some basic and contact information or be anonymous.
  • Choose one of the available subscription plans.
  • After you sign up, a personal therapist will be assigned to you. This will be your therapist the whole time. If you want another one you can do so by asking the company directly.

You can then start.

Subscription pricing:

Online-Therapy.com pricing is on a weekly basis.

For all new customers, they offer a 20% DISCOUNT for the first month.

There are these pricing options:

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    • In this package, you will have full access to the company’s online therapy program, including daily contact with your therapist Monday to Friday plus therapist feedback.
    • Also available are 8 easy-to-follow “sections” aka hands-on tools and reading materials and 25 worksheets you can use for your ongoing improvement.
  • Standard: $59.95 per week. The company’s most popular option and includes extra therapist support through chat and messaging.
    • You can be at ease because online therapy in the platform’s secure and confidential platform and also enjoy daily therapist feedback from Monday to Friday.
    • Here are also 8 easy-to-follow sections and 25 ongoing worksheets that come with the package.
    • Plus you also get one additional live chat session with your therapist every week. There is additional support through messaging as well.
  • It is $59.95 per week and $47.96 per week for the first month.
  • Premium: $79.95 per week. If you need absolute support from your therapist this option is for you.
    • This package includes online therapy, 8 easy-to-follow sections and 25 worksheets, daily therapist feedback Monday-Friday.
    • The main difference in this package is that it also includes express replies,
    • support through messaging,
    • and two live chat therapist sessions PER WEEK.
    • The package is $79.95 per week, except for the first month where the discount makes it $63.96 per week.

PC and mobile-friendly:

Using Online-Therapy.com is as simple as signing up. The site will prompt you to sign up and is designed so that anyone can use their services, regardless of computer skills.

There is also a “live chat” button at the bottom of the screen for anyone who has questions with navigating the site. The platform is also mobile-friendly.

Counselor Support & Effectiveness:

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When you sign up for your account with Online-Therapy.com, you will be assigned a therapist. This is the same therapist you will have from the beginning to the end of your treatment. The therapists on this platform have a wide range of credentials, such as academic degrees, licenses, and certifications including many hours of hands-on experience.

  • The therapist is online and available for 8 hours per day and
  • The staff, including customer service representatives 24/7.
  • Both therapist and staff from Monday to Friday
  • You can communicate with your therapists using live chat, messaging and worksheets.

Every individual work with their therapist through the same online therapy program. This program consists of eight different “sections.” According to the platform, each section is like a chapter in a book. It contains detailed on information on what you need to challenge your negative thinking patterns, based on the issue you filed out before starting your session.

Within each section, there are several different “worksheets” where you will be asked to address specific questions. Then your therapist will give you feedback on a daily basis on Monday-Friday. You will get feedback from your therapist within a maximum of 24 hours. The only real one-on-one appointments you have with your therapist are in your scheduled real-time chat session with your therapists (if it is included in your package). Even if you don’t have one-on-one scheduled sessions with your therapist, you will still be in contact with them through the feedback you get from your sections and worksheets.

Confidentiality & Privacy:

Online-Therapy.com takes several steps to make sure that their customers can enjoy the utmost in safety, privacy and confidentiality when they use this platform. You can sign up for the platform with an alias, if you don’t feel comfortable using your full, real name. Plus, all of the information that you enter into the system is saved anonymously in the company’s secure server using only 128-256 bit SSL. Any information that you put into the system, will be accessed and only you and your therapist can access it. This means your information will be kept safe, private and secure the entire time that you use the website.

Online-Therapy.com’s Counselor Qualifications:

All counselors that work through are trained professionals. However, the site is rather vague on the exact qualifications that they all have. The therapists will have some type of academic degree, license or certification as well as hours of hands-on experience.

All of these counselors are trained in the CBT online therapy program. Cognitive Behavior Therapy is based on the idea that your thoughts are what cause your feelings and behaviors, not external stimuli such as people, situations and events. It is not the stimuli that causes your emotions, but how you interpret and perceive the stimuli. This is the entire system that all of the sections and worksheets available through Online-Therapy.com are based on this well-researched form of therapy.

Specialties & Areas of Expertise:

The goal of Online-Therapy.com is to help provide quality mental health care services to those who need it most, in a convenient and affordable manner—right from the comfort of their own home. All of the therapists are qualified and experienced and have a wide range of experiences. Margaret Sweet, the company’s head of therapists, created a team that has already helped thousands of people.

All of the treatments and the entire program is drawn from cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), a proven, well-researched plan that is designed to help you identify, challenge and overcome your dysfunctional thoughts, behaviors, and emotions. It is an effective way to treat mental health problems.

The company offers treatments, or better said “programs” for the following common mental health issues:

Agoraphobia

Addiction

Anger

Anxiety

Bi-Polar

BPD

GAD

Weight Issues

Depression

Health Anxiety

Insomnia

OCD

Panic Attacks

PTSD

Relationships

Social and Speech Anxiety

Stress

This program is not the same as just meeting with a counselor one-on-one. There are pre-designed programs that are meant to walk you through these different issues detailed on the list. Double-check if your issue is on the list otherwise it may not be that effective.

At the end:

There are many people who need professional counseling services, and Online-Therapy.com makes it convenient and affordable for individuals from all over the country to get the help that they need. This online therapy site besides being a counseling platform also provides additional resources for those who need mental health care and operates out of evidence-based, proven treatments drawn from cognitive behavioral therapy.

This online therapy program has already helped countless individuals get the care that they need and deserve—plus with their affordable pricing options, their therapy services aren’t just convenient, but affordable as well.

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How to renew yourself – Be bold

Its been a while since I wrote something like this.

When you hit a “Plato” kind of state it usually requires more effort to get past it, some give up, some go on.

As this site is about “turning the page” aka improving yourself I had to put this here even though I didn’t feel like it.

And Since I was 3 years in this Hell I thought Id be fitting.

Let’s move on…

Why should I renew myself?

Do you spend all of your time on your job or people that don’t contribute to your or their well-being?

Are you still in relationship with someone who you can’t stand, but cry and despair when they “want” to leave?

Did you get into a project with the best intentions just to get out of it bitter, disappointed or vengeful because someone you trusted made you look like a complete fool?

I recall an old African proverb that says:

“If there is no enemy within the enemy outside can do us no harm.”

Sometimes It just happens that it’s that our options are limited and sometimes the stories we tell ourselves.

Someone can be blind to things that can be so clear to you.

And if someone is going through a hardship, breakup, loss of a job, friend and family member they may need different treatment.

The question alone is the answer, the real question would be “What fruits or weeds Am I growing?”

Or what I like more “Which wolf am I feeding?”

Where do I begin?

After the damage is done what are the options?

If you are grieving sites such as Better-Help, TalkSpace and Online-Therapy.com are one of the options.

Because your bodily health, your energy levels depend also on your inner well-being.

If you’re sick and tired of your current situation, relationship or whatever the case may be

I can guarantee you won’t work out or take care of yourself at all if the words, the insults get too deep.

When developing a persona it not just the surrounding people who affect you it’s your surroundings as well,

and basically what intent, emotion or memory you tie to it.

If you want your energy back you need to go back within and there are people and resources available.

Recovery, renewal goes from the inside-out, your perspective aka mindset is like a root to the tree,

It is the operating system for the computer, and we can leverage it

for example with meta cognitive tools such as the “5 second rule” who can disrupt your current thought pattern so you can do what you have to .

As I get it the idea is to cultivate a habit or a “switch” whenever you need to do something important and you recognize that your thoughts may be talking you outta it, you push the “switch” and engage in the action.

Frankly I felt like a moron the first few times doing it so instead I put on some power metal IE “Sabaton” and while the behavioral pattern is disrupted I got enough momentum for the needed action.

You get the idea.

Maintain the Vision

That midnight snack, that last beer may give momentary pleasure when your day was terrible.

But it’s not just that, the same can be said for almost anything,

I know what it’s like to have a BAD DAY and you don’t want anything to do with it or anything related to it.

When you want to drown that memory that moment by any means at hand or when you can’t you just want to ease the pressure.

You look in a 100 directions instead of the one you need, when it gets so bad you can’t think of anything anymore just on that moment…

So you block all the doors even the ones that hold the solution
.

It doesn’t have to be like that.

“Where there is no vision the people perish”

King Solomon

Most years I had just the feeling that each time something good is about to happen

something would just pull the carpet from under my feet. I stopped when Ive should’ve kept going.

There was no goal, no vision nothing to move forward to.

At one point or other in life something happens that disrupts the previous patterns in your life,

even if you fix the disaster and go back you’re not really the same as before.

You can be afraid sometimes to move towards the new.

Even resentful to it while staying in your own world.

Maybe you are clinging to what’s left of it because you lack the power to restore it to the way it was.

Whatever it may be, sticking to one thing at a time is just that.

No flash, no easy glory, just a (sometimes aka mostly boring) chore.

Do you want it?

With or without the help?

After the resources have been given to you, after the training, after the blessings it ultimately comes down to you.

It would be preferable if you have the things needed to do the necessary, that you’re self-reliant.

If you aren’t in maintaining your vision, maybe you need a simple push

Or to be re-educated on your beliefs and patterns but

at the end as far as I´ve seen it comes down to you.

Again sites like Online-Therapy.com can provide help and support you need if you have a busy life.

Before I forget, “Atomic Habits” by James Clear gives you clarity and a road map on how habits function and how to make new ones.

Ultimately it’s about character how you grow it, nurture it and the surrounding soil.

Stop looking for quick-fixes, For issues that have been bothering you in the long run, you need long term solutions.

At the end of the tunnel

Maybe you’ll see the light at the end of the tunnel just by looking back.

Or there won’t be any I don’t know.

As in writing this I’m traveling through a tunnel as well.

There might or might not be an end It doesn’t matter, not anymore.

Certain things will happen if you decide to take the path least waked and decide to stay on it.

Yes you may need help, you may need companionship, a partner, someone who’s been to where you want to go.

But your choices will determine if you will be given new opportunities or burning them down.

Before I go, think about this.

A guy stranded on a deserted island,all alone and lost everything with no hope of rescue.

Spends his days catching fish and drinking fermented berries while gazing up the stars.

Did he give up or pushed back on life?

The answer? He fought back.

Because after he lost everything he still had the choice to lay down and grieve or to get up and face a new day.

People come and go as the sea by the shore, what you have it can break, what you posses it can take.

What It cants take, what is yours,is your choice.

Actually I heard something like this from “Dragon Age: Inquisition” ,

but it’s a valuable lesson as well,reminded me of a book from Victor Frankl but ill talk about it in another article.

See ya

Life can be stranger than fiction, and is in my case.

Hope you liked this article, If you agree or disagree with anything share your thoughts in the comments section.

If you want to contact me directly or have any questions or stories you want me to cover feel free to shot me a message.

Also YT Chanel will be ready soon.

Till next time.

Blindside – Pay attention

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You probably didn´t see this one coming did you?

Just kidding, welcome and without further delay lets dive into the topic.

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The blind side?

In rugby, it refers to the side of the field and the nearest touchline.

It also refers to the side of a persons vision, IE the peripheral vision, where the vision is dangerously limited or non present.

It can be opposite of where you’re looking at, where you are unaware of approaching objects or worse.

The place where you are vulnerable and where you are likely to get sucker punched.

From warfare to sports, business and even relationships

there’s a spot that we sometimes leave unprotected to surprises, and not all surprises are pleasant.

Especially when you’re focused something that you really like

IE that promotion, your spouse saying he/she loves you, you’re business is booming and maybe you think you’re the top dog

in your field of expertise.

“What could possibly go wrong? I’ve got this.”

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If you think like this then we have a problem.

Let’s move on.

Expect the unexpected

In rugby, it is a term for the side of the offensive line that the quarterback is facing away from while he is in the pocket.

The right-handed quarterbacks blindside is protected by the left tackle.

A lot of effort is put to keep the quarterback’s blind side safe due to the high risk of a turnover on a hit from the blind side since the quarterback cannot see the impact coming.

Teams will often put their best offensive man on the blind side to decrease the pressure put on the quarterback.

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We cannot pay attention to all the details.

We can do only so much from our side and I am not telling that we are helpless or otherwise either.

You might lose your job, disaster may strike your town or family, those closest to you may betray you.

Call it life, Murphy law, bad luck or whatever you want the labels don’t matter.

Your response does.

As the late Dr. Wayne Dyer said When you change the way you look at things the thing you look at change.

Are you aware of your surroundings and the people therein?

Now that due to our inner filter we DO NOT process all the information we are surrounded with.

This is not a motivational hype this is fact.

What is worse than “blindness” is willful blindness.

I hate to admit it myself but I to am guilty of this.

Be it the fact while in the early 90´s in my place wasnt exactly safe.

Aka one time we were running to shelters and one day as I was trying to get out just a few seconds before I could get my hand on the handle I felt a massive quake coming from the floor and walls.

unexpected consequences

Later I was told that the well just a few feet away from our neighbors shelter was blown to pieces.

That was around the age of five maybe even less.

The next years I was basically isolating myself from the people and events around me.

Note that this info is here as an example.

What I am saying here no matter the age or circumstances when such an event happens and

hits you from where you would least expect it sometimes you may want to comfort, to isolate or even to remove yourself from that experience altogether.

Is it betrayal, physical or Physical injury, an unexpected loss of something or someone you hold dear.

The point is that unexpected people or events will come knocking at your door ,

sometimes so bad it can short-circuit ones common sense,

makes you want to just hide in a closet,

make you grow bitter or vengeful ending in major health issues, lousy relationships, bad finances, etc.

And in those moments you may have few responses : fight, flight..or even worse, freeze.

In short the freeze response is kinda like stepping on the gas with full force with your handbrake on.

But that’s not the end.

The shift

Accepting the blindside is one thing but rising despite it is another.

To make the change or “shift” if you will it can take time and effort.

From my experience it is more like a tree you can watch it for days months and years without realizing any progress.

This can be deeply frustrating.

But all things worthwhile take their time as well.

You might want to read or listen to “Cant hurt me” by David Goggins to get a better idea about what I am talking about.

The first great advice I got is that you do something every day that makes you feel uncomfortable.

Sometimes you may even need an extra push in the right direction.

I’ve spend years searching for the one simple thing to take care of every problem in my life but failed to find anything.

You can learn from your mistakes, find a person or two you trust to watch your back, read books, go to sessions, webinars

or whatever your choice is. But you have to make the choice and put in the effort with ego out of the way.

You’re welcome to try yourself and do tell me which one has worked out better for you.

Paying attention

These award and embarasing moments that can last in some cases just a few seconds.

No matter how talented, experienced or good you are you will get a surprise package at your door.

If you can avoid it, wonderful, if not and it smashes you to the ground get up in any way you can as soon as possible or others will make sure you stay there.

Life is about consistency among other things, I’ve learned it the not so pretty way.

There’s a reason why in the army the drill instructors behave the way they do and that is to strengthen the ones who are in training so that when the real deal comes they don’t crumble or freeze at the first challenge.

Again, I’m talking that the people are trained to operate under pressure.

In life this to applies, because we may not control everything but we can choose how we respond in those vital moments.

And that matters.

“Steel” your mind

Sorry for the long break I was pretty beat down.

I do however want to hear your thoughts about this so comment below and share your thoughts Id like to hear them.

And whoever is on vacation I wish them a blast time.

And greets from Croatia,

Dario K.

12 Rules for Life: An Antidote to Chaos – a short review

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Name: 12 rules for life-an antidote to chaos

Author: Jordan B. Peterson

Publisher: Penguin Books Ltd.

(Audiobook) read by author

Where to buy:Amazon.com

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About the author

Jordan B. Peterson born in June in 1962 is a Canadian psychologist and a professor of psychology at the University of Toronto.

In Canada, he supposedly criticized the legislation for the use of transgender pronouns.

Some even called him a “transphobe” and he has some social justice warriors chasing him like a village mob chasing Frankenstein’s monster.

Yet after that, he went viral and he inspired millions with his enthusiasm and a quite unique look on life.

The book

12 rules for life – an antidote to chaos

I´ll try to keep it spoiler-free to the best of my ability and draw out a few notes to help you “paint” a clearer picture.

The book is divided into 12 rules each with a rich story.

Rule 1

On a neural level, it will change how people see you.

Youll get treated better, have better chances with finding a partner, increasing your serotonin level and you will be less likely to fall into the pit of substance abuse, getting cancer, heart disease, etc.

Rule 2

What I got here was that you determine your values and the direction you are heading so that you treat yourself like someone you are responsible for helping. Hard?Yes. But having a vague idea, having a part of the plan in your head is better than none.

Rule 3

Check out who you hang out with. Are they pushing you to become better?

Do they make you smile and want the best for you?

If not then reconsider hanging out with them, as stated in the New Testament, by Jim Rohn and many others you become who you hang around with.

Rule 4

We are unique on one and multiple levels.

And what I got here is not to compare yourself with others but with who you were yesterday.

Let’s say you are in the gym and you don’t see progress by constantly looking at others but by looking at yourself.

Rule 5

This rule is about parenting skills.

Rule 6

Here the author suggests before we criticize the world that we should stop doing the things we know are wrong.

Rule 7

I liked this one, pursue meaning, not pleasure.

Peterson is opposed to being expedient.

He came to this conclusion by a longer analysis of Nietzsche, Dostojevski, the Bible and many more.

If there is no meaning to your life you can make one.

Rule 8

Be honest, cause dishonesty will always come back to you in one way or the other.

Rule 9

Here it’s about truly listening to others assuming they know something you don’t.

Don’t let yourself get in the way of attaining what can be vital information that can benefit you.

Rule 10

Be precise in your speech.

Let’s say that something is bothering you and you don’t go and speak to your doctor because of the fear of what it “might be”.

If you don’t know what it is you’ll assume the worst while in reality, it may be nothing at all.

Express it or it will come out as something far worse.

Rule 11

Let me say it like this.

At a young age, boys test the limits of their bikes, cars, skateboards as well as their own abilities as drivers, how much they can stay in control in a chaotic situation.

When they push against teachers, parents or any authority figure they push to see if there is any true authority that can be relied on in case of a catastrophe.

Weakness didn’t expel them from the classroom it was the strength.

Rule 12

Simple moments like petting a cat on the street may come from time to time if we pay attention.

Why? Its moments like that give both sides a smile, make a day brighter and give you a break from the everyday absurdity.

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Walking above your shadows

Who you were who you are and who you’re going to be are three different personas.

And one thing everyone has to master if he wants to move on in life is to rise above his/her past self which is embedded in his subconscious aka his/her shadow.

Therefore, the name walk above your shadow.

Feeding the wolf

It´s scary to look within, it´s difficult to embrace what shadows have been lurking on the inside for far too long and it´s necessary.

As in the old native American story about the two wolves, one is dark one is light,

Which one wins at the end the one your feed.

autumn wolves

Which wolf are you feeding? Which one is growing and which one is starving?

Or let me put it like this

what behavior, what thoughts, what unwelcome guests are you continually letting in?

Is your kid with the wrong crowd? Is your better half disrespecting or ignoring yours?

Do you have to fight for their attention all the time?

Are you doing your best at avoiding confrontations, not wanting to rattle the boat?

First, this is not some motivational hype speech, your don,t need motivation.

From my perspective its the same as nitro in a racing game, and with that nitro, you can either use it as an advantage or waste it by flying off the tracks or ramming a wall.

Now and then perhaps, but not all the time, otherwise you may use it as an escape mechanism aka an excuse.

The word here is consistency, and feeding the wolf means one thing and that is feeding, nurturing and growing a one or multiple behavioral habits, skills, etc.

Are you constantly beating yourself over a loss or a disappointment?

Or are you doing something each day ie. learning a new language, perfecting your communication or attitude?

Of the two examples above who do you think will be at the higher ground after a year, after 365 days?

Who will benefit more after a month or just a week?

Feeding the wolf is making a choice, but that alone is not enough.

Intention matters as well…

Intensions or pretensions

Intensions are the root, the cornerstone and the backbone in your actions, decisions, and plans.

Basically your character.

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They are in everything we do and sometimes we are not even aware of them.

Or in some cases do not want to be aware, Regardless of understanding them may give one more resolution to deal with a certain issue, plan, jobs even relationships.

The newer word for them might be YOUR WHY.

We could do the same work right now but get different results because of them.

Let us say a guy whos been friends with a girl for a while suddenly has an emotional outburst confessing his undying love or something like that what we can see in tons of teen movies, and in the movies that nice guy gets the girl in the end.

In real life, that is not the case.

And it is not a good way to go. Let`s say the typical nice guy operates from a state of fear, of not being enough, low self-esteem, etc.

And then when he meets someone he likes he may take the “friend” approach because of fear of getting rejected.

What is the intention here? Well one of them may be to have her stay, not because of love but because of fear of being alone, of own insecurities, etc.

This “Nice guy Syndrome” goes both ways and Dr. Robert Glover goes into more detail about this in his book “No more Mr.Nice guy”.On the definition and the solution to it.

Another example would be the resentment the office worker faces when treated poorly by his peers.

Where on one hand he needs the job, has children to take care of and is willing to put up with everything just to make sure the little ones get something to eat and a chance for a better education, for a better life.

On the other hand, imagine the same situation just this time the worker is focused more on himself than on the child.

He/she works for stuff he/she doesn’t need for people who don’t like him/her because the selfish intentions are a priority, not the kid.

So we can see what kind of person was dealing with just by observing them.

As stated in Matthew 7:16 King James Version (KJV)

“Ye shall know them by their fruits. Do men gather grapes of thorns or figs of thistles?”

and in Matthew 7:18

” A good tree cannot bring forth evil fruit, neither can a corrupt tree bring forth good fruit.”

Guard your attention

Humans are more complex than plants of course.

We can choose however what our “fruits” will be, where attention goes

energy also flows.

Maybe you have heard that your thoughts from your actions which form your habits and your habits will form your destiny.

What starts in the thought process with consistency and repetition WILL come true just as a seed becomes a tree.

Here attention comes in play. One of the most primary resources alongside time.

If misleading it can cost you dearly. Hanging out with a few “buddies” who just want a drink, two, ten or a favor from your while giving nothing in return, Consulting or comforting someone who you’re interested in when they had a fight with their lover and will eventually return to them, supporting a business partner who offers the same empty promises for months.

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You could be sitting next to a pot of gold but you wouldn´t see it because you’re focused on your empty wallet.

This can be explained through the Reticular Activating System or RAS for short.

It is a bunch of nerves in our brain that filters unnecessary information so that the important ones come through.

It is why you hear your favorite song through a crowd of people when you really want a car and then start noticing it everywhere when you miss someone with all your heart and start seeing them everywhere.

Depending on your perspective aka beliefs RAS seeks out the information to validate them.

And as the subconscious RAS can be trained by “setting your intent” as some people call it, which is basically linking your subconscious thoughts to the conscious ones.

And as such, it can be viewed as a tool for growth.

If you care about love and kindness you will start seeing more of it because that is in your belief system and RAS has no other choice but to comply.

For this, it is vital to whom or what we give our attention, our time to. As I mentioned in the last post the more you hang around a depressed or deceitful person you will subconsciously form the same behavior they have.

Into the light

By “light” here I am talking about truth aka facing your current condition as it is. Something is better left alone, some people need to be let go and some paths are better not to be walked on.

What “shadows” or what flaws you may have a need to be addressed in the first place and then with or without support one has to go that mile.

In order to get rid off the disease, you need to acknowledge it not run from it.

No hacks or simple solutions are of much use if the ground is soiled with chemicals so will the fruit be.

It will still look good on the outside but the inside will be infested.

To cleanse it first you must cleanse the ground from which it grows.

To get rid of the issue in your business, in your relationship or in your friendships you have to acknowledge it, accept that it is there and if it is stuck for some reason learn to walk with it. Eventually, it will go away and something else will take its place, quit and it will be even harder to remove.

It’s an hourly, daily, monthly even yearly walk but it is one you have to and only you can make.

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Last thoughts

This one has been on my mind for a while and honestly, a part of me didn’t want to say it but I have my reasons for doing so.

Character is a slow-grow process but it’s a rewarding one too. And I can’t say it out of the woods myself yet now I know I’m walking towards someplace better.

Well, this turned out to be longer than expected but I hope you liked it.

If you have any thoughts on the article please share them below.

Till next time

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Morality or Cowardice -Where is the line?

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Hey , let me start out with a simple question.

Are you a nice person?

Whatever your answer maybe you may want to rethink it.

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What is morality?

Morality derived from the Latin word “moralis” which means something like character, manner or proper behavior.

It is the differentiation of decisions, intentions and deeds (aka actions )between those that are distinguished between proper and improper ones.

Morality can mean a set of standards, rules and responsibilities,basically a way of life.

From a region, culture and religion it can be derived as a standard, a way of living or “the right path”.

It is often tied to “goodness” and “rightness”. That one thing which tells “right” from “wrong”.

In the old stories the authors glorified it to nowadays basically too high levels.

Who wouldn´t want to be a “good guy” in his own story?

One example is the statement of Christ about the “Golden rule” found in the New Testament, which says:

“One should treat others as one would like others to treat oneself.”

In itself morality isn’t bad.

It does however get a bad rep cause of certain people.

Nietzsche commented on this as well.

Something like most moralist´s are cowards.

What does this mean? That every person that has morals is a coward? NO.

It is because “cowards” disguise their cowardice with the “mask” of morality, a LIE.

We all have these traits yet they are more developed in some people more than others.

It depends on the core of a person, their true intentions.

Before into the actions of others we must also not forget to look into our own…

Facing the truth

Cowardice can be seen as the lack of courage, saying no when you mean yes and vice versa, not doing the things you have to do, running away from responsibility, commitment…and the truth.

No one wants to be described as a coward. It reduces your social status among st peers and elders, as well among friends, family, business partners, your better half…

Not only does one shrink in others eyes to the point of nothingness in extreme cases.

It leaves a person vulnerable, weak-willed, resentful, bitter, spiteful or worse.

Unless broken this fear based cycle is a never ending source of suffering.

It´s fear running wild in one´s life , spreading like a wildfire and drowning like a flood.

If not addressed and treated properly it progresses like cancer to a point where recovery seems impossible.

Such a person tends to flee from a challenge, to cheat, lie and sabotage themselves as well as others.

Another issue is the stories they tell themselves, the person they pretend to be.

The mask they put on every day which is just a copping mechanism to relieve the constant building pressure because no one want´s to feel like this.

No one.

Not everyone in such state can help themselves as well,sometimes a “hand out” is OK, but not if they keep coming back asking for more each time while their condition worsens. If you do so you´re “inviting” that same fear into your house, into your soul.

There are more factors to consider of course but in the end the one that is treated needs to do something from their side as well.

Note that this is not written to point fingers at anyone .

It is written to address a problem.

Maybe you know someone who displays such behavior or you may suspect a similar behavior in yourself.

The remedy to all that ARE willing to turn the page is the truth and everything that comes with it.

Is it painful? Yes, but so are operations and recoveries of patients in critical stages.

There´s no way around it, no quick fixes, no “skipping the steps”.

Just know that accepting your truth, your reality doesn´t mean settling down with it.

It IS NOT set in stone therefore there is always something to look forward to.

It will hurt but regret and resentment, the “fruits” of fear will hurt even more.

Apply integrity

So how to escape from this mindset?

Well I haven´t found a way out but a way through.

As stated in Matthew 7:13 that we should enter the narrow gate.

For wide and easy is the way that leads to destruction.

This is true in life.

Countless examples still show it today.

Consistency is key here, the more often you do something the better you become at it, be it good or bad.

What kind of life you have is also determined by the things you do or don’t do on a consistent basis.

Integrity aka saying what you mean and meaning what you say or Biblical speaking

“Simply let your ‘Yes’ be ‘Yes,’ and your ‘No,’ ‘No.’ Anything more comes from the evil one.

Matthew 5:37″

The definition is simple but applying it can be hard for some more than others.

For example, saying yes to that one more drink when you want to quit,

saying no to your spouse or loved one when you have an addiction or health problem and they wish to help,

saying yes to that party when your child is sick at home and you honestly just wanna stay and take care it.

These are only some examples of the lack of integrity and courage.

Often we know what we should do on some level but we talk ourselves out of it.

So the key to change is truth.

You gotta be honest with yourself and the surrounding ones.

You gotta be honest about the things you need to give up and the people you need to let go.

Integrity ,in short does not come from a place of fear or weakness,

but of strength.

It’s when your no means no, and your yes means yes.

When you know what you value and you´re willing and able to defend it at all cost.

It doesn´t mean your harmless or weak either but we´ll discuss that in the next post.

Go all the way

Again, you have to see life as a marathon, a campaign.

A daily, weekly, monthly, yearly ongoing march.

As in nature when something stop growing or developing it starts dying.

Be it a community, marriage or any kind of vow you make, know that it is in consistency that lies the answer.

The moment you start to get sloppy or lazy on your path that’s when you start planting the seeds of mediocrity.

Last thoughts

Thats it from me. Hoped you liked this post.

If you have any thoughts or opinions on this article please leave your comments below.

PS

If somebody has saw his- or herself here and is thinking this is a “waste of time” or “what BS”.

I understand, for I was is a similar position as well, just sick of motivational

and positive nonsense but even sicker from staying in the same miserable mind, job and life.

When you come to a point of “enough is enough” you´ll understand this better.

Till next time.